Being a stay at home mom is all I have ever wanted to be. Coming from a family of divorce and seeing my mom go off to work everyday, work late hours every night and then being shipped off to my grandparents house for a week while mom went to a conference for work showed me exactly what I did not want to do. I always felt that mom’s job came first and we came second. In all honesty I was jealous of her job and how much time it stole from us (my two younger brothers and I). Looking back as an adult I understand now that my mom made sacrifices she didn’t really want to make at all so she could keep our tummies full, the lights on, and us warm, but for me the die had been cast. At the ripe old age of 8 I knew I never wanted my own children to feel the way I felt and that I was going to stay home with them. Those thoughts and feelings have never wavered.
Being a stay at home mom isn’t all roses and sunshine though. Yes, there are great days but there are also those days when I would gladly give my
little monsters I mean darling sons to a babysitter and head off to a kid free zone (aka work) for 8 hours. Oh the grass on the other side of that fence does seem greener some days…
Being a stay at home mom also means you will have to make sacrifices that a two income household may not have had to make. It means you will not always get the new dress (there was once a period where I went 3 years without buying new cloths), those cute new boots, the sports package for your husband, or the new iPhone 100 millionth edition, or the new….fill in the blank.
However, to me that is so worth it because what it means is that I get to see my sons grow, I spend most of my day playing, giggling, and dancing with a baby on my hip. It means I am the one who holds them when they are hurt or afraid, I am the one who molds their young lives day in and day out, and influences who they will grow into from the very start.
The reality of a single income is that you must figure out how to make living on less work for the family. You must be prepared for a lack of income due to your spouse getting laid off or being ill and missing work (my husband job doesn’t have paid sick days), and 100 other things that may throw a financial monkey wrench into your personal finance plan.
As a stay at home mom I also admire the strength and courage it takes for mom’s who work to leave them at the sitters, especially if that is the last thing they want to be doing. Motherhood is full of choices we must make every day, many of them wonderful, but at the same time many of them not so much.
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